# Chain: Judgment To Love > *Judgment is incompatible with Love; the soul learns to choose Love instead* **The argument it traces:** Judgment of others reveals our own soul state → beneath judgment lies hidden hurt → the antidote is conscious choice, not suppression → as the soul grows in Love, compassion and forgiveness come reflexively **13** messages · **21** supporting · main statement not yet chosen --- ## Foundation ### 2017-06-15 - [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|Lesson on Judgement]] A talk on judgment given at the circle's request, opening on the thread's premise: "The desire to judge, those feelings that you are uncomfortable with, how another is in the world, express to you things that reflect back to you your own soul condition and personality... In this you more readily judge yourself than anyone else." Perception is not the fault, "It is your reaction to that perception which is a good indicator of your own soul progression," and the rest of the argument is built on that ground: the judged side, "When someone is judging you, my beloveds, say a prayer for them"; love as what makes judging impossible, "When you send love how can judgement survive the infusion of love?"; conscious choice as the method, with a first-person template, "I will let go of my need and my habit to judge... Then when I am faced with the dilemmas of judgement, I will choose Love"; and no self-condemnation when one fails, "even when you fall into judgement, do not condemn yourself." Anchor. ## Elaboration ### 2015-10-26 - [[2015-10-26 Guidance about Our Choices in the Flow of God's Love|Guidance about Our Choices in the Flow of God's Love]] Not only that judgment should be released, but why, and what to do with the impulse instead. Error in another is real and she does not pretend otherwise, "there are times when you see error and disharmony in another." The correction is simply not yours: "It is not for you to correct this, it is for you to show Truth within yourselves and who you are in the world, to be an example. It is for God to lead them into the Light and for their souls to draw them into the Light." Two agents are named, God and the person's own soul, which is what makes the restraint something other than indifference. The instruction that follows is active rather than passive: "Do not concern yourselves with that which you see are obstructions upon another's path, but pray for them, my beloveds, love them and guide them through your example." ### 2016-04-12 - [[2016-04-12 Lesson on the Falsity of the Vicarious Atonement and the Unsure Nature of Written Truth|Lesson on the Falsity of the Vicarious Atonement and the Unsure Nature of Written Truth]] Applies the thread to the specific case of someone who is wrong, and rules against correcting them. "Do not confront others and say: 'you are wrong'. No, my beloveds, you must merely live your truth and speak your truth in loving ways." He gives the reason from the hearer's side, "most often these precious souls who mean well are not open to your truth," and from the seeker's own limits, since none of them holds absolute truth either. He also draws the one boundary, which keeps this from becoming passivity: "there are times when a gross error, when those around you speak blatant error and express profound negativity, in these times you must confront error... for you must never enter a negative condition unless you make an effort to bring greater Light." So silence is the rule for honest error and speech is required against active darkness. ### 2016-07-04 - [[2016-07-04 Receiving Guidance|Receiving Guidance]] Speaks to the one on the receiving end of criticism: "You must love all those who would criticise you... for I, too, was the object of such ridicule when I walked the Earth," and places the harm in what the seeker allows: "It is only when you allow the criticism of others, the negative thoughts of others, to bruise you... that you allow negativity to enter into your being." Closest member [[2018-06-26 Release Judgment, Embrace Love|2018-06-26-af-matthew]]; new facet: permission as the point where darkness enters, stated as a law (negativity gets in only when we allow it), along with Jesus' own experience of being ridiculed. The [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] Capstone also speaks to being judged ("When someone is judging you... say a prayer for them. Do not allow these conditions to infect your own mind."), so what this message adds is the law of permission, not the receiving end as such. ### 2016-08-11 - [[2016-08-11 Your Obstacles Strengthen You in the Light|Your Obstacles Strengthen You in the Light]] Adds the licensed exit: "to engage with love or to disengage where there is no possibility of love. And this is not being weak, backing down, this does not injure you but it strengthens you." Closest member [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] (Capstone); new facet: every Capstone remedy keeps the seeker inside the interaction; this licenses a bounded behavioral exit, conditioned on no possibility of love and framed as strength. ### 2016-08-25 - [[2016-08-25 Embrace All in the Flow of God's Love|Embrace All in the Flow of God's Love]] The consequentialist reason for restraint: "you are to meet other souls there who are primarily within their mind, they have very set beliefs and are rigid and I would request that you do not confront these individuals in a way that would continue to harden their perspectives. No, you must embrace them in love." Closest member [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] (Capstone); new facet: the members treat judgment as damage to the judger's own soul; this treats confrontation as causally damaging to the person confronted, hardening the position one hoped to soften, making restraint a matter of effectiveness as well as love. ### 2016-09-03 - [[2016-09-03 Love Brings Resolution to Disturbances|Love Brings Resolution to Disturbances]] Judgment measured by its effect on the person judged, where the chain's other messages measure it by its effect on the one judging. Their line runs inward: judgment reveals our own soul state, beneath it lies hidden hurt, the antidote is conscious choice, and compassion arrives reflexively as the soul grows. Mary argues outward and practically: "Confronting her will not create the effect that you wish but will entrench her in her belief, but if you are channels of love, acceptance, humility and prayer you will assist us in keeping the conditions at a higher level," summed up as "Judgement does not bring resolution, love always does." Nearest to it is [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]], the developed lesson, which supplies the inner diagnosis and the choose-Love antidote. What this adds is the efficacy argument: love is prescribed not because judgment corrupts the one judging but because confrontation hardens the other person and love is the only thing that resolves. ### 2016-09-15 - [[2016-09-15 The Reaction to Your Light|The Reaction to Your Light]] The judger diagnosed, and the non-reciprocation rule stated as a rule. On the judger: "There are those who feel jealousy and who are competitive, and all of this is a condition of the mind, yet their souls may indeed have the Love within yet their minds continue in their reflexive responses towards you." On the response: "Do not react in the way of anger to anger, judgement to judgement, fear to fear." ### 2016-11-29 - [[2016-11-29 Put Aside the Goals and Ambitions of Your Mind|Put Aside the Goals and Ambitions of Your Mind]] Judas puts withdrawal beside judging and names the mind's part in it, "When you seek to remove yourselves, to cause distance, to judge, to withhold love, to fabricate within your minds reasons and explanations for these behaviours then you reinforce the human condition within yourselves and you turn away from God." He allows a limited exit where love is refused, "when another refuses your embrace say a prayer for them and move on," but not a lasting one, "You cannot turn away forever from these circumstances and conditions in life because they are all too common and you will face them wherever you go." The method is the thread's own, conscious choice, "you must be conscious of those times when you are challenged and make a choice to face those challenges head on," with God asked for what the moment needs, "If you are worried as to what you will say, ask God to put the words into your mouth." ### 2018-06-24 - [[2018-06-24 Seek Humility and Compassion for Self and Others|Seek Humility and Compassion for Self and Others]] The impulse to correct named as the mind's bid for superiority, "Can you truly call yourselves a channel of Love when you judge, pull back, desire to correct and to give advice as if you are superior and incapable of error yourselves?" The test is the seeker's own reaction, "What is your true and honest feeling when you perceive error in another? If it is compassion, you are responding with your soul's light," and the reaction is a mirror, "When you have an intense reaction of another's behaviour, realize that within you lies the same condition." New facet: what judging costs the work. Others are watching, their souls drawn while their minds look for reasons to resist, so "when you are amongst others and express judgment... you empower the minds of others to reject you and to reject the message that you give." Closest member [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] (the reaction as a measure of one's own soul). ### 2018-06-26 - [[2018-06-26 Release Judgment, Embrace Love|Release Judgment, Embrace Love]] What lies beneath judgment: the soul desires not to judge, the mind answers with anger and resentment, and "Beyond these feelings often lies a very deep feeling of being unloved and unrecognized in the world," from times of feeling "rejected and unloved." The test is daily and has a recognizable pass mark: facing someone who has stirred the old feelings over and over, "rather than the old patterns expressing themselves in your consciousness, there is love, compassion, and forgiveness, then you have passed the test... And so each day is a gift, each day a test, each day an opportunity to change, to choose, to grow in love." ### 2019-04-05 - [[2019-04-05 Mediumship, Gifts, Being a Channel of Love|Mediumship, Gifts, Being a Channel of Love]] The facet within the community itself: schisms among those living the Divine Love come from differing approaches, not error ("this does not mean that your brothers and sisters are wrong or misdirected"); the stronger in love must be the example; rejection is met with greater love because it is "a cry for love"; release the judgments and stress the commonalities. Applies the thread's argument inside the fellowship rather than toward the world. ## Capstone ### 2018-07-16 - [[2018-07-16 Forgiveness|Forgiveness]] A talk on forgiveness that states the thread's close: forgiveness is "a measure of your own soul's progression, as God infills your soul with His Love. So the urge to forgive, to let go, comes with this blessing," until "the love within your soul is so powerful and so present within all of you, that you forgive reflexively, no matter the intention of others." Its weight is put plainly, "Even a measure of this, no matter how small, is greater than all good deeds done in this world," and the failure state named, "When you judge and condemn another or even yourself and lack forgiveness and compassion, you hold your soul's progression from moving forward." Anchor. --- ## Also touches on this *These messages restate or echo the idea rather than carry it forward, so they sit alongside the thread rather than in it.* - **2014-07-26** [[2014-07-26 Free Will Makes for a Free Wheeling World, Nothing Is Guaranteed|Free Will Makes for a Free Wheeling World, Nothing Is Guaranteed]] (witness) - The cost of judging falling on the one who judges, with self and others named in a single move, "The judgments of yourselves and of others are not required for this will bring darkness to you and disharmony within." - **2015-06-15** [[2015-06-15 Walk in the Light and Be the Beacon of Light despite the Daily Challenges|Walk in the Light and Be the Beacon of Light despite the Daily Challenges]] (witness) - The cost of judging falls on the one who judges, "if you get caught up in judgment and react to the behaviors of others which you do not approve of, you counteract the influence of God's Love, you take away from this Light, you divert the flow of God's Love." - **2016-02-29** [[2016-02-29 You Struggle but You Do Make Progress|You Struggle but You Do Make Progress]] (witness) - "thoughts of judgements and anger, fear" named among the human conditions that pull a soul from the Light, "this is when God makes effort to reach you to pull you back into the Light." Nothing here on judging others or the impulse to correct, so not a member. - **2016-03-07** [[2016-03-07 Sensitive Souls Are the Saviours of This World|Sensitive Souls Are the Saviours of This World]] (sighting) - "to choose compassion over judgment," among the choices the sensitive soul makes; an adjacency, not a distinct contribution. - **2016-03-16** [[2016-03-16 The Resonance of Love Amongst You|The Resonance of Love Amongst You]] (sighting) - Judgment set aside as the precondition of the encounter, "put aside your thoughts of judgments, of reticence, of fear but greet the soul with love." The same passage carries the Chrysalis above and is not counted twice. - **2016-05-25** [[2016-05-25 Do Not Judge the Natural Pathway|Do Not Judge the Natural Pathway]] (sighting) - "put away your biases"; near the intra-community facet of [[2019-04-05 Mediumship, Gifts, Being a Channel of Love|2019-04-05-af-augustine]], but natural-path versus Divine-path belief rather than approaches within Divine Love; witness level. - **2016-08-11** [[2016-08-11 Your Obstacles Strengthen You in the Light|Your Obstacles Strengthen You in the Light]] (sighting) - A first-person pattern to follow ("I will not stand for negativity; I stand for Love. I will be love"), plus an option: "to engage with love or to disengage where there is no possibility of love. And this is not being weak." The [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] Capstone offers only inner remedies (seeing without judging, catching yourself, choosing Love, praying for the one who judges), and none of them allows stepping away, so the option is logged as a member in the line below. - **2016-08-26** [[2016-08-26 This House Is Blessed by God|This House Is Blessed by God]] (witness) - "Do not judge, but embrace and allow that love to flow freely to all you meet"; pairs with the sibling [[2016-08-25 Embrace All in the Flow of God's Love|2016-08-25-af-brother-mandus]], the stronger of the pair. - **2016-09-01** [[2016-09-01 Be Open to God's Love|Be Open to God's Love]] (witness) - "Forgiveness, beloved souls, will open the door, forgiveness of yourselves, of all those around you and in place you must put love... Love will open the door to God and God's Love will come rushing in like a mighty river." The Capstone ([[2018-07-16 Forgiveness|2018-07-16-af-andrew]]) makes forgiveness the consequence, arriving reflexively as the Love infills; this makes it the precondition that opens the door. Held explicitly; settle before the thread is built; see the Open Questions entry, where a dissolving reading (an initial act of will versus a matured reflex) is recorded as a reading to weigh, not a ruling. - **2016-09-02** [[2016-09-02 God Has Lit a Spark Within You|God Has Lit a Spark Within You]] (witness) - Judgment declined on a new ground. Elsewhere in the chain, non-judgment comes through what judging reveals about the person judging, or through conscious choice as the antidote; Confucius reaches it because no two paths can be compared: "that expression will be unique for each individual. For each soul is unique and the path that they walk is unique," therefore "Do not judge another's path but walk firmly upon your own." The thing judged is not comparable, so the comparison is void. Stated across two sentences without being built out. - **2016-09-04** [[2016-09-04 Blessings for Each|Blessings for Each]] (sighting) - "See all you meet with eyes of love," the instruction the Mary message of the previous day argues at length, here in a single clause with no ground given. Recorded so the two are findable together, since they close consecutive days of one gathering. - **2016-09-11** [[2016-09-11 Many Are with You in Your Efforts|Many Are with You in Your Efforts]] (witness) - The judged side again, with a discount the thread does not carry. "Many turned away from me thinking me not right within my mind, but I persisted and I prayed intensely and I sought out God and did not pay much attention to the judgements of others who did not understand and could not understand the true longings of my soul. Only God knows this and only God can respond to this." Nearest to it is [[2016-07-04 Receiving Guidance|2016-07-04-af-jesus]], which locates the injury in the seeker's consent. The facet here is different: Jesus answers judgement with love for the judger and with withheld consent, Francis answers it by discounting the judgement on epistemic grounds, since the judger cannot see what only God can. Held at witness because the passage is offered as encouragement rather than as teaching about judgement. - **2016-09-12** [[2016-09-12 You Are Supported in Your Struggle|You Are Supported in Your Struggle]] (witness) - "Go along the streets. Say your prayers as you walk. Say your prayers as you join in the services of the churches. Continue to be the humble servant of God and do not let the error that you hear uttered by those within those churches inhibit the flow of your love. True humility is acceptance. True humility is adding your love to those who are seeking the Light, however false their beliefs." Nearest to it is [[2016-08-25 Embrace All in the Flow of God's Love|2016-08-25-af-brother-mandus]], do not confront the rigid, since confrontation hardens the position one hoped to soften. Brother Mandus counsels restraint inside a conversation; Jerome counsels active participation in a service whose doctrine the servant believes false, and redefines humility as that acceptance. Held at witness because it is instruction rather than argument, and because it also reads as a [[Chains/Religious Error|Religious Error]] adjacency, where the error is real and deliberately not corrected on the spot. - **2016-11-07** [[2016-11-07 Love Is the Key|Love Is the Key]] (witness) - The chain's argument run forwards. "How can you judge your brothers and sisters if you feel the joy and acknowledgement of how much you are all loved, how much you are loved?" Nineteen months later [[2018-06-26 Release Judgment, Embrace Love|2018-06-26-af-matthew]] runs the same line backwards, finding the hurt of feeling unloved underneath judgment. What Andrew adds is the positive form: knowing yourself loved is what makes judgment impossible. It is one question inside a message about receiving, so it sits alongside for now. - **2016-11-27** [[2016-11-27 Drawing Many Kindred Spirits|Drawing Many Kindred Spirits]] (sighting) - The closing list, "do not judge, do not resist, enfold, embrace, accept, and love." - **2016-11-28** [[2016-11-28 Unite in the Name of Love|Unite in the Name of Love]] (witness) - The cost of judgment stated as a loss rather than a diagnosis, "When you push your brothers and sisters away in judgement or fear, you push God away, you push love away," with the positive form following, "When you envelop and accept, when you make an effort to go beyond your own barriers and reach out to others in sincerity, in humility, you bring the light to you." [[2017-06-15 Lesson on Judgement|2017-06-15-af-augustine]] holds that judgment is incompatible with Love; this says the brother and God go out the same door together. - **2016-12-02** [[2016-12-02 Turn to the Soul Rather than the Mind|Turn to the Soul Rather than the Mind]] (witness) - "rather than judge you must love, rather than insist that another change, love them, be the Love." - **2017-01-16** [[2017-01-16 Accept Every Unique Soul - Their Differences Will Not Harm You Spiritually|Accept Every Unique Soul: Their Differences Will Not Harm You Spiritually]] (witness) - "You are learning to not judge those who you find different in this world... to allow the individual soul to walk their individual paths in love," each soul's path its own. - **2018-03-02** [[2018-03-02 Allow the Soul to Have Its Say|Allow the Soul to Have Its Say]] (witness) - Non-judgment given as his own example, "Now, I could judge my brother for what he did. I could say, he deserved his fate but where would that thought originate? Not of the soul," with the instruction that follows, "Do not judge your brothers, beloved souls... But consider how you may uplift them." - **2018-07-16** [[2018-07-16 Forgiveness|Forgiveness]] (build) - The message holds forgiveness as both a decision and a reflex, "you must be strong in your decision to seek forgiveness always" alongside "you forgive reflexively," which answers the ordering question raised by [[2016-09-01 Be Open to God's Love|2016-09-01-af-jesus]], where forgiveness opens the door: it begins as an act of will and matures into a reflex as the Love fills the soul. - **2019-04-07** [[2019-04-07 Walking God's Path of Divine Love Will Bring You Upon A Different Road|Walking God's Path of Divine Love Will Bring You Upon A Different Road]] (sighting) - "There is much judgment within the human condition that is directed towards those who are different."